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Domestic Violence: Finding Safety and Support

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What You Can Do if You Know the Abuser

It is important to consider your own safety any time you are dealing with an abuser. Depending on the circumstances, some of the actions below may be appropriate. Use your judgment.

If you see or hear an incident of domestic violence, you can:

Note: Even if you do not know the abuser or the victim, as a bystander you may be able to take the actions above.

If you think someone you know is abusing their partner, you can:

Note: Be careful if you decide to talk to the abuser, even if you believe it is safe for you to do so, especially if you didn’t witness the incident. He may think the victim has been talking to you, and that could put the victim at risk. Abusers are generally threatened by anyone who attempts to help the victim in any way.